• When I was looking at a possible job change you talked with me, and supported me even as both of us were unsure of the path I was pursuing. I’m not sure I would have survived it without your sensitive support. . . . Kathie
  • That first August morning when I shared my shameful secret, you offered warmth and acceptance. I left feeling like I had made a friend from whom I would not need to hide. . . . Jordan
  • Thank you for helping us through the most difficult period of our marriage. Because you helped me me understand the nature of this type of mental illness I have been able to help others. . . . Sharon
  • If anyone ever needed a Spiritual Guide to help sustain her fast dwindling faith, it was I. I thank God that I found that in you. . . . Comfort
  • Your faith is contagious! . . . Verna
  • I not only feel closer to God because of you, but with your help I’ve overcome so much fear, even the fear of speaking in front of people. . . . Cherry
  • You have led me into a deeper awareness of God’s love for me and through me. . . . Joyce
  • You have an inspirational way of keeping the road cleared. . . . Erik
  • A crazy year and you’ve been with me every step of the way. You’ve been my rock and I can’t thank you enough. . . . Rose
  • Thank you for being you . . . and always being there for me. . . . Amie

Unique Self Coaching

Unique Self Coaching Process

Founded on the work of Marc Gafni, D.Phil., the Unique Self Coaching Process (USCP) moves us from our mistaken identity in the False Self to our true identity as unique expressions of the love-intelligence that animates creation’s evolutionary story.

form1Mistaken, alienated and separate, the False Self drives destructive behavior and keeps us from becoming all we were created to be. The USCP is comprised of a set of practices, the first of which break open the pattern of the False Self and liberate us to develop and grow.

As we break out of our False Self Pattern, we come to know that we are not separate at all. We are One, one True Self. This insight lies at the heart of “Eastern” enlightenment teachings. But who or what is the True Self? It is love itself, but not the emotion we call love. Rather it is the creative power interpenetrating creation; it is the evolutionary impulse reaching towards beauty. The USCP offers practices that enable and deepen our realization of the True Self.

form2True Self is a foreign concept in strictly “modern” societies in part because “enlightenment” in the West is focused on self-actualization. As Marc Gafni likes to point out, it seems ridiculous that the universe would take 13.82 billion years to make a YOU and then want YOU to absorbed into the One.

Yet it is essential that we live into the reality that we are not separate, we are True Self, we are One, for this is the source of life’s creative purpose and power.

True Self is an essential step in our development and growth, but it is not the final step, nor the goal.

stars1Once we recognize our fundamental Oneness, it becomes obvious that we are each a unique expression of that True Self, a truly Unique Self. The USCP works to discover the character of Unique Self through the parts of our lives that are lived in shadow, where shame plays a role in how we are formed. It takes great courage, but when we are able to look deeply into this aspect of ourselves, we discover the light of our Unique Self that has been covered in shadow. It also helps us to shine a light on our “greatness” . . . the gifts and talents unique to us that comprise what we have to offer the world.  Finally we ask the question, “To what end?” Each of us is a unique, irreplaceable  expression of the love intelligence that is unfolding creation’s evolutionary story. Each of us has an essential role to play. We are called to live out our role in evolution’s story. This is what gives our life value, beauty and purpose. You and only you are qualified to live your part in the story. moon-womanOnly you can perform the creative dance of love in your sphere of   influence. This is what it means to be an Evolutionary Unique Self, the final phase in our process . . . opening us to Spirit’s next step in our lives.

The USCP is not a one time thing, it is a lifetime of exploration and growth. You are a unique expression of the love intelligence animating creation. However you take this journey, I hope you will seek to answer the call, and I would love to help you on your way.

professionals interested in training to use the USCP process write
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